Children are fun loving and love life, so what goes wrong?




Somehow along the way from childhood to adulthood, we let that slip

We let it become distorted and twisted

Adulthood becomes filled with stress and strain

With mortgages and unloved jobs

With arguments, fights and broken relationships

Hurt and pain

We start to be silent


When we are children we are taught to ignore the parts of ourselves that make us unique

The parts of ourselves that create our gifts

Our unique perspective on this life

This builds over the years

By the time we reach our 40s the world of our childhood is a distant memory

We have become shadows of our former selves

We look for change and it's hard

We see the world for what it is and what it should have been

We are crippled by years of fear from unfulfilled needs

We are twisted because we never got what we truly wanted


Children instinctively know life is a playground

Life is meant to be filled with fun and adventure

Adventure for the heart and the soul

Adventuring with fun and joy

The existence of love for self, love for each other

Life is meant to fulfil and enrich

Life is not just about pain

We can learn our best lessons from love


Children should never be asked to let go of fun

Never be told to grow up

Responsibility is not about letting go of fun

It's about being responsible and having fun

I want to teach my children how to enjoy this life

Yes there will be pain but mostly there will be fun

There will be more joy than heartache

There will be more laughter than tears

People will love you and you will love them

You can get lost but you will never be alone

You should love yourself as you are the most important person in your world

Love is all they need

A love of self and love of others

The universe will reward your love with more love


As long as they stay connected to who they are

They will find life to be the adventure they dream

It's only when we lose our connection to who we are that we become lost

They are their own guidance

They can navigate from their own truths

I am but a tour guide showing them the sites

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