Why teaching children to have an open, honest view of themselves is the key to their success in life






 I'm a father of two so I don't take this lightly

There is nothing more important to me than the future of my children

I will be forever grateful to them, they needed me to be better

They challenged me, they held a mirror to me, they asked that I take a good hard look at myself


It was the best thing I ever did


I didn't like what I saw, what I was, what I had let myself become

Coming to accept who I am, flaws, weaknesses, broken parts, has been the biggest challenge of my life

My gift in return is to teach them to keep the same open and honest approach to viewing themselves

Always see yourself for who you are, not who you think you are

To know they are not me, not their parents, they are unique them

To use what I teach them to move out into the world

Then disregard it all and decide for themselves

The only person that knows what's right for you, is you


Learn to listen to the voice inside you that loves you unconditionally, learn to trust it, let it guide you

Everything you do is then out of love, let that be your guide


To be honest about who you are means knowing what you are capable of

It's about accepting your shadow

Understanding what you want to be

It means understanding what is good for you and what is not

Shows you how to navigate life in a way that's right for you

Seeing yourself for who you are means seeing others for who they are (this to me is the best way to protect children from harm - to be able to see others for who they are means they understand who to trust and who not to trust)

It means knowing that giving and receiving are healthy

Helps you to know that healthy relationships are 50/50 and that nothing else will do

This means good mental health

It means good emotional understanding

Promotes a healthy attitude to the body and an understanding of boundaries


It means being in your power, walking in your power, talking in your power

This means knowing what decisions to make, from the small to the life-changing

True empowerment


This is our collective mission, my mission. To help change the world from a world that expects our children to fit in. To a world that moulds itself around our children. Our children are the future, our role is to make sure it's a good one.



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