tonymegwaicoaching

  Who taught you how to deal with your emotions? I never considered this a question until my children started struggling with theirs.   I was a sensitive child. So, there was no one around who was more sensitive than me. There was no one emotionally aware enough to guide me. Everyone around me seemed hard, cold and distant. So, I suppressed it as much as possible, which made me lonely and frustrated. Suppressing this just meant it resurfaced decades later when I became a parent. It then took me nearly a decade to resolve this internally unresolved conflict, and such was the magnitude of my self-deception. Now, I'm here to share with you so you can learn from my mistakes and help you navigate this world successfully as a sensitive empath.   Often, as children, we are faced with emotionally illiterate people. Most people have never had any emotional awareness support, help, training, or guidance. So, how can you deal with your emotions if no one shows you how?   As adu...

It is just not possible! I get tired, irritable, annoyed, frustrated, down, depressed, upset—the list goes on.  For me, parenting is about balance. Am I creating a safe space for my children? Am I working to improve on this every day? That is me as a parent. It is also the social narrative. What I feel is missing from the social narrative around children is an understanding that ‘safe spaces’ for children need to be safe spaces for parents. The simple truth is children can be toxic sometimes, and we, as parents, try to navigate them through their toxicity. It is not all learned toxicity with children; some of it they bring with them when they are born, some of it is theirs alone, children are born with shadows. Karma, call it what you will, past life experience. Children bring unresolved issues with them (but that’s a whole other post). Shadows need to be worked through in life. We are all here to grow beyond our shadow.   The focus here is defining ‘safe’. Understanding ‘safe...

Each family has its own unique culture. Each individual adds to the culture of the family. Your family culture is made of lots of different aspects, the country you are born, the origins of your parents/grandparents, the extended ancestral  history, wider culture, religion/non-religion, aspirations, the extended family, friends, lifestyle, neighbourhood, jobs, careers, schools, food you eat, things you do together etc etc the list is extensive. Each culture is unique, each family is unique, each person in the family is unique, there are similarities but often the ‘norms’ are unique.     Each parent, in turn comes from a separate family that had and has its own unique culture and often it is not until you start parenting, i.e., when you first child is born, that we begin to see the extent to which these cultures can clash. One parent’s approach to family can be very different to the other parent’s approach to family. There can be so much that compares and contrasts from ea...

  I'm a father of two so I don't take this lightly There is nothing more important to me than the future of my children I will be forever grateful to them, they needed me to be better They challenged me, they held a mirror to me, they asked that I take a good hard look at myself It was the best thing I ever did I didn't like what I saw, what I was, what I had let myself become Coming to accept who I am, flaws, weaknesses, broken parts, has been the biggest challenge of my life My gift in return is to teach them to keep the same open and honest approach to viewing themselves Always see yourself for who you are, not who you think you are To know they are not me, not their parents, they are unique them To use what I teach them to move out into the world Then disregard it all and decide for themselves The only person that knows what's right for you, is you Learn to listen to the voice inside you that loves you unconditionally, learn to trust it, let it guide you Everything ...

You are trapped by your emotions. It's true, I know how this can sound. Life is a journey and every journey has traumatic emotional experiences. Each of these experiences has the potential to trap you. If you do not navigate the situation successfully you stop at that point emotionally, each of these events has a resonance. An emotional resonance and you cannot move past it until you resolve the emotional resonance. This is how your life can feel like you are in a loop. Why does this keep happening to me? Sound familiar? You are continuously reliving and replaying the same emotional loop. The universe loves you. I know at times this seems hard to believe but it does. It loves you so much, it's cheering for you, rooting for you. It created a space in this universe just for you. It doesn't want to you fail, it wants you to grow, learn and achieve your dreams. So it is willing to provide you intimate opportunities to resolve your trauma. It will loop you over and over again, i...

Modern men can still be warriors Modern male warriors are spiritually connected Have learned to balance their feminine and masculine sides Male strength is about creating safe spaces filled with patience, love and support Men can still be warriors We don't need to fight to prove ourselves Strength comes from caring Strength comes from fearlessly facing life challenges Success is measured in mental health, emotional wealth and physical wellbeing These are the pillars of the modern male warrior Financial success follows personal awareness Personal success follows self-worth Relationship success follows self-care The true way of the warrior is caring and kindness Being firm and fair Being open and listening Modern men can be modern warriors #fearless #growth #growthmindset #modernman #dad #men #menshealth #divinemasculine #divinefeminine #mens